Oh, girls, I have a dream. Someday I'll open a lazy moms club. Well, okay, if you don't like “lazy” (as for me, it's a very positive quality), then let it be “serene". Calm ones. Peaceful. In a word, happy ones.Nooo, this is boring!

There will be moms living a full and real life in my club! Cheerful, loving, caring, but at the same time lazy. Would you say a pun, an oxymoron, fiction, and nonsense? Is it impossible to combine healthy laziness and motherhood? 

Don't rush to throw your slippers at me. I'll explain everything now. I promise - at the end of our conversation, you will want to apply to join my future club ;-)

The motto of our club is: "We drink coffee hot"

"Lazy mom" is a regime that you need to be able to turn on in time so that after ten to fifteen years you still don't have to make the bed or wash the dishes for your no longer young children. By turning on this mode, moms simultaneously (though not immediately) activate the “I'm on my own!" function in their children.”This is also the mission of parents – to raise independent individuals, isn't it?

So: you need to be “lazy” to help a child where there is no great need for it. And I have to do my own thing. Looking out, of course. Drink the same coffee – hot and with pleasure. And, what is extremely important in the “lazy mode": moms, use all the benefits of civilization that know how to help in this.
So, the first rule is: wherever it is possible to give a child freedom, I beg you, do it! The phrase "I myself" is sacred. Let it take time, create a mess, and can cause a fair amount of unbearable screams and screams.

The first attempts to do everything on their own appear already with the beginning of complementary feeding. We have heard that the self-feeding method is now popular, when a child is offered to try to take food with his hands and explore it in a safe presentation. Some will get into your mouth, some on the floor, a considerable portion will be permanently absorbed into children's clothes, stick to your hair, and something will just smear on the high chair.

But, according to child psychologists, it's a great way for toddlers to explore the world through taste, smell, sight, and touch. It's an elementary task for us adults to bring food to our mouths even in pitch darkness. And for a kid to coordinate movements is a mission with an asterisk! That is why it is so important to create conditions for the development of this skill, as well as to constantly and patiently support the child along this path.

A good high chair will definitely help with this. If he is comfortable, stable and safe, then he knows how to “work" with a child without the participation of his mother. She sat down, put food on, threw toys, kissed the top of her head, and quietly disappeared. 

An example of such a “feeder” is the Carrello Toffee high chair. An ideal thing for the development of independence: it can be used from the first days of life as a chaise longue. The baby will literally grow up in it, and will feel as comfortable as his mother's arms.

The chair has sturdy legs, padded five-point seat belts, and height adjustment for as many as six positions. The chair can and even should be placed at the parent's table so that the baby can see how the family eats and feels like its full-fledged, and maybe even the most important part. This, according to nutrition experts, stimulates food interest, allows kids to imitate adults and socialize.

And yet: I won't reveal America that in the early stages of such a gastronomic exploration of the world, children get dirty a lot and dirty everything around them within a radius of at least half a meter. But due to the fact that this high chair has replaceable countertops and a durable fabric, it is easy to wash. Freedom for the flying pureties!

Moms, we're going for a walk! 

What else do moms need to indulge in healthy and enjoyable laziness without remorse? Go away! Fun, active, carefree! Yes, with a child. But at the same time, choosing the walking mode according to your own tastes and plans. Today - to the park, tomorrow - to a cafe with a girlfriend, the day after tomorrow - to the supermarket… And yes, it will also develop your child's independence skills. In a comfortable environment and in his favorite place, the child socializes, looks curiously at everything around him - faces, objects, points with his finger at what interests him, studies the terrain, chooses a pose, turns his head in all directions.The conclusion? We need a suitable stroller! Ideal not only for the baby, but also for the mother. My recommendation is the Carrello Vista Air stroller! All-season. Durable. Easy to manage.

A real Mercedes for the curious kinder! There are two viewing windows in the hood of the bathyscaphe. There is an anti-mosquito cape to explore the space in any weather. There is an adjustable backrest position to sleep “without leaving the cash register.” Well, the cool thing about this model is the large inflated wheels with a tenacious tread (it says Mercedes! 🙂) 
Wait, that we're all about the baby yeah about the baby… And what about this stroller for moms? Oh, girls, there's a lot of fun! I tell you: the height-adjustable parent handle to hold comfortably. Paired parking brake: foot lazily so - rraz! - and the carriage stands rooted to the spot. Cool roomy shopping basket. Well, it adds up with a “slight movement of the hand.”

Another rule of our club: We are not afraid of mistakes!

Crying because of temporary difficulties is normal. Tell me, moms, who among us has not seen tears in the eyes of a child because of a seemingly trivial problem? For example, there are socks who refuse to get dressed even on the 20th attempt...
Are you rushing to help right away? Don't be in a hurry... We will take such mothers to our club with caution ... On the contrary, rejoice at the persistence of your baby, praise!

As Laura Mcham, a doctor and author of popular books on child psychology, says: "Give children the opportunity to make mistakes. This is their path to learning and developing independence."

On the way to the first step, the baby will have a lot of falls and, possibly, bumps on his forehead. But even so, their interest always wins out, and the children try again and again to do everything as adults. 

The first steps can be disturbing for parents trying to keep their child safe. During this period, the restless baby sometimes cannot be left for a minute.

Fortunately, even in this case, there is a tool that will help to relieve the parents a little. Indefatigable legs will work, but safe... in a walker! 

For example, Carrello Fiore walkers. Although they will not replace learning to walk, they will help parents at least briefly catch their breath. The walker has a game board that entertains the baby. The swing mode will allow the child to be alone without his mother's constant supervision. 

In the walker, it is possible to switch them to the “first steps” mode: so that the child, leaning on, starts stomping on his own. It is very important from the very first steps to give the baby the opportunity to decide for himself where and for what purpose (to take his favorite toy, pull the tablecloth off the table, open his mother's makeup bag) he wants to go!

“Buy yourself an apartment and live separately!”

A familiar joke? Well, yes, the bearded one… But with meaning! After all, getting used to being (and living!) a separate person can already since childhood! Otherwise, my mother's two-meter-tall, 30-year-old treasure will grow up - and you will iron your shirts and fry meatballs until retirement (it's good if you iron your own, not his). And then you'll start frantically looking for a wife for him, no matter what - the main thing is that with an apartment ... it's a sad prospect, isn't it?

That's why, girls, we're starting small. For example, from the playpens. They put their child there, and he plays with his toy and imaginary neighbors, and at the same time gets used to his own separate territory. And at this time you are learning to be lazy - correctly and usefully, both for yourself and for the benefit of the future of your beloved child.

Look, there's a playpen called the Carrello Grande.  The walls are made of transparent fabric, so the child can constantly see the parents, understand that despite the built boundaries of personal space, they are nearby, they can be seen and heard, you can even call for help if the wheels of the red car are screwed too tightly. It's cozy and safe here, like in a house, so you can safely explore toys and reflect on adult life. 

Experts advise that in order to stimulate play alone with your toys, gradually increase the time when the child is playing on his own, without your participation. First it's one minute, then five, and then you will read a book, and only from time to time maintain a visible and verbal connection with the child.

And another life hack from parenting experts: put toys in different boxes. And give them to the child in the playpen in portions. This way, the toys will have a novelty effect every time and will not get boring, and the child will play on his own for longer.

By the way, the Grande arena even includes rings that allow the baby to train his arm strength. This playground will be with your baby for up to four years (or even longer!). For many children, playpens become such a safe and cozy corner that children, after an active game, are not averse to reading books here, playing relaxing entertainment and taking a nap with their favorite cuddly bunny. Often – without the help of parents.

And finally, praise!

An important rule: praise and support your child in his desire to become independent!

I'll say more: some stages of independence are even worthy of a birthday cake. For example, the first independent trip to the potty, sleeping in your crib, the first tied shoelace, and especially the first step.

And even if something doesn't work out the first time, praise him anyway - for his efforts. 

Psychologists say that up to the age of 12, it is the parents who are the reliable support of the child, his world, his main motivator and role model. Therefore, do not miss this opportunity and do not skimp on words of support.: You tried it so well! You've tried so hard! You will definitely succeed next time! We need to grow up a little more, become a little stronger and try again and again. And my dad and I will support you."

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...So, girls, when are we going to the first meeting of the club? 😀